One thing that no one really talks a lot about is how, once you hit your 30s, you start having trouble remembering your exact age. When a new friend asked me how old I was, I actually paused for a few seconds to recalculate! This year, I’ll be turning 33. Safe to say, I’ve experienced a lot at this age. But what I want to highlight in today’s post is this.
When your gut says do it — just do it.
There have been several times in my life when I had a strong gut feeling, but I ignored it. This time, I decided to go with it. Whatever happens, at least I tried. What I’m only now starting to realize, after so many years of doubting myself, is that it's not so bad to push yourself — as long as it doesn’t harm you. Yes, I get it. It can be really uncomfortable to be in an unfamiliar place or situation. But trust me — at the end of the day, you’ll be glad you did it. Learning to redirect negative thoughts is such a powerful skill. And once you get used to it, that unpleasant feeling becomes much easier to move through.
I have only been on this Youtube journey for about 5 months now, but so much has happened in such a short time. While working with my family, I never really gave myself the time to socialize. You could say I’m a bit of a workaholic. When I focus on work, I don’t like distractions.
But this year, I made a conscious decision to let myself enjoy life a little more. Don’t get me wrong — I'm still working. I just bring my work with me wherever I go. And honestly, that decision has been one of the best things I have done for myself. I've met new people, building new connections, and started to repolish my social skills.
But one may ask, what if I'm a mother in my 30s? How can I listen to my gut when I have another human being to take care of? If you are a mother at this age and struggling to meet your own needs first, I understand how challenging it can be. I have friends who manage to prioritize both their own needs and their child’s. How? One of them sends her child to playschool and signs up for a gym session everyday. And the positive side of that? Her child grows up happy, and she is in the best emotional place of her life.
I know I am not in the best position to offer tips on this, but my only advice is this — if your gut says do it, just do it. Adjusting your time and strategy is not as hard as it seems once you start working on it. That 'nantilah dulu' actually comes from a place of burnout or fear. Fear of stepping outside what is already comfortable for us. Take it one step at a time. You’ve got this!
I think it is also important to carefully distinguish between your gut feeling and negative thoughts disguised as gut instinct. Sometimes we mistake our fears or doubts for genuine intuition, when in reality, they are just holding us back.
To wrap this up, trust yourself, listen carefully, and remember — the best decisions often come when we trust our instincts over our fears. Take that step, embrace the changes, and know that growth never happens in your comfort zone. At the end of the day, it is about finding the courage to listen to yourself and move forward, one step at a time.
